Are you IN LOVE? Or is it the SEX?

Two days ago in this Post, I shared with you how I had fallen very sick and had to do a bed rest, watching if my Body would heal itself without Medical care. Well the good news is in! It did! And boy am I so excited to share all the things I did with you.
But not in this post today. 

Today I want to dive into something really different, a little sensitive and I ask that you be patient with me, read through my thoughts and as always please share your own ideas in comments. 

Now let’s jump into our conversation for today. 

Are you really in love or is the sex keeping you bound?

If the only time you feel connected to your partner is when you are having sex with him, then there might be a deeper problem that you are refusing to address. 

And oftentimes it has nothing to do with him, but more to do with you.

How do you feel about yourself? Have you thought about this? Is it possible that a large part of you has become very small that you no longer demand better for yourself and just seem to ride with whatever waves pour in? 

Many women have found themselves stuck in relationships that once upon a time started really well, with great affection, deep-meaningful conversations, and what could have possibly been an enviable friendship. But as time passed, they found less and less satisfaction from the relationship, needing more affection or more thoughtful interactions but never getting it, and instead only getting and settling for more and more sex with quickly fleeting satisfaction.Does this sound like you?

Are you currently in a relationship where you feel like the sex is all you have? Maybe you are right.

And if this is the case then you might want to begin to consider the underlying reasons why you are still in that relationship.

We all know that the best relationships are those that thrive on friendship, mutual respect, engaging and meaningful conversation, support of one and another and mutual accountability among other values. If most of these is missing in your current relationship with your partner it is most likely because your own personal values are warped, distorted, out of place.

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This can result from a lack of self esteem, a deep-seated limiting belief of lack of self worth and general lack of love and respect for yourself.

You must begin to address what it is about yourself that you are currently not happy about and notice how you are using sex to compensate for that. 

Many women equate Sex with Love and this misconception is one that has caused a lot of emotional trauma in many relationships today.

While sex is largely an emotional experience for women, it really can be less emotional for men and more physical. 

So for the most part you may be compensating with sex because you have wrongly believed that this equates to love on his part and the truth is, it doesn’t.

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What you may be seeking is affection or attention from another person, love as we call it on the surface level. 

And if you are seeking love, albeit desperately, if it has become a sort of mask to hide the real wounds that are eating you up, then you may never end up with the healthy kind of love that you deserve. If you can trust yourself enough to go through the temporary pain that will result from breaking away for long enough to heal yourself, then you just may be able to get yourself into the right path in love in good time.

Your job at this point is to stare at yourself long and hard in the mirror and ask yourself what you’ll rather have.

How would you want a man to treat you? How would you want your ideal relationship to be?

What would have to happen everyday in your relationship asides sex?

These quick questions will help you uncover all the parts of your present relationship that do not serve your highest good and perhaps help you make the life changing decision to let go.

And in letting go, you must begin to place yourself and your well-being as your own priority. 
Know that you are capable of loving yourself, of giving yourself enough attention to sustain you and overflow. Accept that you are wonderful, and beautiful and just so perfect in every way.  

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Begin to take time out to care for yourself, get your hair done for yourself, put on some makeup for yourself, begin to put time to working out and exercising for yourself, buy yourself a few new clothes and take a few hot photos of you.
And do all the wonderful creative things that you have in your heart to do. As time goes by you will begin to like the new you better and you will begin to set some new standards in love for yourself. The more you like yourself, the better you feel, and the better the Love/Relationship you will attract in the future. You will also find yourself less dependent on others and more dependent on yourself as you begin to take more and more responsibility for your own happiness. 

I hope this helps create clarity for you and you come off feeling better about you, and ready to be accountable to you. 

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